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Hey y’all,
So I haven’t written anything since, like, September, so I decided to put at least something up here: what I’ve been doing with my time and locations you can find my writing if you’ve got a hankerin’ for the Michael.
As some of you know, I recently broke up and got back together with Pete. That’s a long ass story and it was harsh and not very fun, and so I don’t think I’ll go into great detail unless anybody asks me… Yeah, I thought so.
Since, I moved out of the apartment and into a house. Pete and I currently live in a household of eight. It’s been interesting, but I wrote about that on a Hub.
One of my roommates, Idalia, and I were talking about making money online and I told her I haven’t made much (a whopping $4.85 through Adsense since March and nothing through Amazon’s affiliate links). She started talking about some survey sites, Associated Content, and eHow. She sparked my interest and I’ve now been writing on those sites for nearly a month. I still haven’t made much, but I can see the earnings starting to snowball already.
So I present to you four places to find my work online other than Senua:
I know a lot of these sites have a bad reputation for having low-quality content, but I guarantee I put as much care into those articles as I do here.
I plan to begin updating Senua again soon, maybe even today if I can’t find other things to do, so keep checking back and you’ll see a few new articles springing up over the next week or so, until I finally get back into my old writing schedule.
So, as some of you may remember, I recently applied for a job at Sitel, and was offered a position about a week later. Now, those close to me may also know the next half of the story: I never called back. I decided after deep thought that an hour-long walk is simply far too long for me to fit between my school schedule and the necessity of sleep. Now, sure, it was rude for me not to call back (and Jocelyn is so nice, too!), but I simply didn’t deem it necessary until it was far too late to return the message. After a certain point, I find, it’s just not worth it anymore.
Looking around the web, list posts have become a very popular method of promoting blogs to stratospheric levels. Unfortunately, many of these lists providing advice seem to do it in the form of, “100 things you’re doing wrong,” or, “24 Occasions Your Life Will Go Horribly Wrong.” (Hey… maybe those can be follow-up posts!)
Believing life is generally good and enjoyable and that people can do anything they want with a little effort and motivation, I’ve compiled a list of things you’re already doing completely right, and how to expand them to create an environment of good energy.
1. Reading improves your mind
The advice many budding writers receive is to read — a lot. The best way to learn to write is to read works others have written. I say read not just to improve your writing, but to improve your mind. Read everything for which you have time. Reading gives new ideas to consider, new questions to answer, refreshing outlooks on old advice and considerations.
The best way to improve your life through reading is to question everything. Learn to read like a good researcher. Analyze everything you come across and ask questions, finding answers to them. Find ways to apply what you’ve read to your own life, and use that as a springboard into elevated enjoyment of life.
2. Writing helps you learn about yourself
Another way to make your life more fun is to keep a journal. Write about what you read that day, keeping track of thoughts to which you may want to return your attention one day when there is nothing else to do. Practice writing whenever you have the time and the energy.
Improve your life through writing by using what you’ve written to learn about yourself. Think about what you’ve written that day. Keep track of how you felt while writing, and consider why you may have felt that way. If you come across a pattern of negativity, try to diagnose what may have caused it and brainstorm ways to improve the situation.
3. Criticism is not always bad
Learning to take criticism well is one of the most important skills I have picked up on my journey so far. When somebody criticizes another constructively, it improves the work of the person in the future and provides a springboard into better things.
There are two sides to this. First, learn to accept criticism. Then, learn how to dish it. Learn what to look for in somebody’s work that needs improvement, and then figure out ways to reveal this information in a positive manner.
Using the two-way street of criticism is one of the best ways to improve your life, because it improves other skills as well.
4. Talking with others expands horizons
Sharing thoughts with another and hearing new ideas, applying them to your own life, and questioning beliefs is another great way to improve your life. If you’re conservative, speak with a liberal, and ask why they feel how they feel. Question that by providing evidence that you are right, and when you are presented with ideas different to your own, question everything and contemplate whether your “factual opinions” are really correct.
The best way to use this for improvement is to ensure neither party is taking offense, and learn to converse in a constructive manner, rather than fighting on controversial issues. Taking new beliefs into consideration will make you an overall more pleasant person; not only have you learned to convey and accept opinions, but you’ve also learned what other opinions are out there and can support your own claims in the future.
5. Networking generates happiness
When you make friends, you gain a sense of solidarity which can combat feelings of emptiness and loneliness you may have in the future. When you have somebody to whom you may speak about personal tragedy, you are less prone to rash and negative behavior, for the sake of keeping your friends safe.
A way to apply this to your life is to ensure you build positive networks. I’m not condoning making friends with thieves and murderers. Rather, find those who share common interests and build bonds that can last for life, in order to be sure you’re on the right path. Sharing a common goal is one of the best ways to build a positive bond.
6. Sleep allows you to learn
Sleeping lets your memory form, which is a large part of learning. Additionally, it prevents the negative cognitive effects of deprivation, gives your mind time to rest itself, helps prevent immune system problems, and much, much more.
The only way to improve your life through sleep is to be sure you are getting enough sleep for yourself, which I’ve heard can vary from six hours to twelve hours per day. If you do not feel well-rested or have trouble staying awake during the day, check with a doctor to make sure you’re not suffering from any of a number of disorders and that you’re actually getting enough rest for yourself.
7. Introspection breeds progress
Thinking about life on your own time and generally letting your mind wander is one of the best methods of discovering new ideas. The most innovative minds of our race have come upon their theories by letting their minds wander while asking, “What if…?” Get your alone time and just think. Find a nice silent place to let your mind free of the bondage of bills, work, and even political correctness and let yourself stumble onto new and crazy ideas. While they may not always be ingenious, chances are they will at least give you more enjoyment from your alone time.
You’re most likely already doing this on long trips to work and in line at the grocery store. Now all you need to do is make sure you follow thoughts through. Don’t dismiss them on the basis of stupidity or being impossible or irrational. Let the “What if…?” come through and change the way you think about everything.
8. Eating breakfast leads to health and wellness
This has been around for a while now. We generally don’t have time to eat breakfast. Try to rearrange your schedule and get to bed a few minutes early to give yourself enough time to enjoy a light meal in the mornings. It increases your cognitive ability, reduces stress, and studies even show people who eat breakfast tend to be healthier and more satisfied with life.
The only way to go about this is to do it. Enjoy your breakfast and understand the benefits of certain foods. Be sure to have as pleasant a meal as possible.
9. Having a hobby improves quality of life
Studies show people who have hobbies tend to recover from major surgery more quickly than those who do not. Having a hobby is very simple. Whether you prefer to collect stamps, publish a blog, trade baseball cards, or even build beer bottle pyramids, find something which you may learn and improve upon over the years and that will motivate you to achieve and give a sense of accomplishment.
Go about doing this by finding something you enjoy and becoming better at it. Pick something productive and challenging, but nothing that you won’t enjoy for a long time to come. It’s the only way to go about choosing a good hobby.
10. Having goals helps productivity
Finally on our list is having goals. Similar to having hobbies, goals help people to achieve things they wouldn’t have done otherwise. If you want to buy a house someday, you have a goal, and you’ve likely broken it down into steps of accomplishment.
Make your goals simple yet thoroughly stated, challenging to accomplish so that you will grow, and easy to plan. Design a schedule, breaking the goal into steps, until you’ve finally found a nice ladder you may begin climbing today. It will improve your quality of life by giving you a sense of accomplishment, a place toward which to head when you have free time, and a reason to keep getting up in the mornings.
According to William Arthur Ward’s “To Risk,” “To laugh is to risk appearing a fool.” However, as he says, “The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing is nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he cannot learn, feel, change, grow, or live.”
While this can be applied to many instances and areas of our choices and lives, I feel the first part applies especially to education. Specifically, class participation, which I feel becomes both exponentially more difficult the further you take education and exponentially more important, paying dividends in the long run.
A friend of mine, Emily, spent the last two days organizing her time so that she could finish a Latin assignment. She ultimately finished it, proudly taking it to class with her this morning. When she got there, nobody else in her, albeit very small (six students), had finished their assignment, so her professor shortened it.
While it hurts her to have put so much energy into something that was ultimately not completely used, she feels a sense of accomplishment knowing she can do it. I am very proud of her for finishing such a long assignment and for realizing right off the bat how far working hard will take her.
When it comes to finals week and Emily needs an extra point or two to make a higher letter grade, should she continue this outstanding performance, I am willing to bet her professor will push it based on her performance.
Why participate?
Class participation is important for a number of reasons.
That extra push
In a class of 600 students, if your professor knows your name, it can be a good sign, because it could mean you’ve been one of the outstanding, dedicated students for which your professors come to work.
If your professor knows you as a hard-working student, chances are you can get the extra push for a higher grade, which could pay dividends in your GPA. Additionally, should you decide to take another class with that professor, but your dream schedule depends on one filled class, the chances of you being able to card-in with a signature increase incredibly. If he or she knows you’re a good student, he or she will most likely approve you.
Letters of Recommendation
Remember, in a class of 600 students, it’s hard to get the professor’s attention, let alone any time outside of class. If you need a letter of recommendation and they know you more personally, they’re more likely to write one, rather than just print out a generic one, replacing your name and signing theirs at the bottom. The more genuine a letter of recommendation is, the better. It could mean the difference between a scholarship and a rejection, or grad school and settling for a bachelor’s.
For the common good
Sometimes classes are based on participation grades. In this case, most people are probably eager to participate. However, in a regular class, there are people who want to speak up, but don’t want to go first. They may need some encouragement by proxy of another student’s discussion to break the barrier of shyness. In this case, you’ve benefited another student, or more than one. However, you’ve also benefited your professor.
Professors teach their subject, more often than not, because they love their subject. They enjoy what they do. They come to class just because they love their subject so much they want to share it with the world. They’re human, too, though, so think of it this way: If you were excited about something, but nobody else was, how would you feel? Discouraged, to say the least, right?
Professors can be discouraged, as well. They want to know what they’ve taught has sparked some interest and sunk in. They need that to come to class every day without losing morale. Remember what I said earlier. If you help them, they’ll help you.
Altruism is the practice of doing or giving something for the benefit of the common good. For centuries, farmers lived in close-knit, rural communities where they did everything they could to help each other out and ensure a productive, safe harvest. They shared land, crops, and tools, and made sure they would build the best community they could. This benefited everybody in the long run, and suicide rates were even lower due to the feeling of social solidarity.
When we moved into urbanization and the industrial revolution, however, suicide rates increased as we moved into a world of anomie, where everybody is around so many people, and yet is so isolated in their own bubbles, they lack the tight networks that once fueled our world.
Thus, I implore: be an altruist.
Why?
The power of altruism is infinite and its benefits are countless. Giving away extra cash to somebody in need benefits you by proxy of feeling positive for doing a good deed, and, of course, the karmic benefits. Additionally, sharing secrets of your craft could lead to professional recommendations (”Boy, boss, this guy really knows what he’s talking about!”) and finding new team members for your next big project or making connections that could help you find a new job should your current position ever close.
Who benefits?
Benefits vary by both the act of kindness and the person to whom something, whether tangible or intangible, has been given. For an altruistic action, everybody can benefit. Donating money to a scholarship fund will provide a starving college student (like myself — hint hint) with enough money to not have to work for a while, which will lead to a much less stressful academic experience. In addition, your name will most likely be attached to the scholarship, or at least part of it, depending on your contribution, which could lead to more hits to your website, friends, thank you cards, etc. When you do something nice for the community, everybody gets something out of it, including yourself.
How can I be an altruist?
I believe everybody is an altruist at heart, which leads me to say most of what you already do, from tithing at church to giving the homeless a few quarters and a bag of chips, is benefiting somebody else. If you want to benefit your community, there are many things you may do, depending on the size of your town:
1. Donate your time. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or animal shelter.
2. Use your money. If somebody asks for a quarter at the bus stop, why not give it to them, as long as you can still find a way home?
3. Share your attention. Every office and classroom has a person who’s isolated from the group. Even though there is a small chance they are hermited by choice, for the most part, people seek company, but are sometimes too shy to go out there and make new friends. Why not ask them how they are on any particular day, offer a lunch date, and compliment their shoes? It will only take a few minutes, and chances are, you’ll brighten their day.
4. Reveal your secrets to success. Ask about writing a guest post for your favorite blog (It’s Senua, right? I knew it). Tell everybody how you managed to graduate summa cum laude and get into Harvard Law.
Or even better, share your ideas and thoughts about altruism in the comments.
I’ve been researching for a while now the best method of taking notes as I begin my collegiate career. I hadn’t, however, considered just how awful my handwriting truly is until I got a call from my aunt asking what I had written in the birthday card I sent to her… (Happy one-day-early birthday, by the way, Aunt Pat).
All this time, I never knew the one secret to why my handwriting is so bad:
People who inevitably have trouble with handwriting and calligraphy write with their fingers. They “draw” the letters. A finger-writer puts the full weight of his/her hand on the paper, his fingers form the letters, and he picks his hand up repeatedly to move it across the paper as he writes.
Okay, so maybe that’s not the full extent… but you’ll have to read the whole article to find out what you’re doing wrong and exactly what to do to fix it!
First, let me just tell you this is NOT a twitter hack. I’m sorry for being misleading.
Want the heads up on what’s gonna happen on Senua before it happens? Want to be ahead of the times? Why not follow me on Twitter? It’s quick, it’s easy, and you’ll know what happens before I get the chance to write out something about it.
Free web application GiftBox provides a place to create registries for any and every occasion absolutely free of charge. Think of it like Amazon++, or a way to register at Mervyns and Macy’s all in one place.
Additionally, and uniquely from what I’ve seen so far, GiftBox provides a place to create “style files,” which are basically certain looks or outfits you desire, so people can buy clothes without having to worry whether you’ll wear it (be warned: this does NOT prevent those poodle sweaters from Great Aunt Erma). You can put down your preferences so people can pick out their own gifts from a certain criteria, which should help prevent getting three toasters for your house-warming because your family and friends did not discuss what they were going to buy: more options means less chance of receiving the same thing.
Even more, GiftBox provides links to coupons and deals for items you have selected, so you and your friends can even save money.
The downside I’ve noticed using this service is that their server seems to be painfully slow. Take this with a grain of salt and give it a chance. It’s sure to improve over time.
While GiftBox may not rate highly on the every-day-handy scale, it certainly gets a 9 for usefulness.
Free-to-use website UpDown provides a place to play the stocks, managing an imaginary sum of US $1 million in the stock market. As your stocks go up, you earn money — real money. And even if you never make any money, you still get this awesome sum of knowledge about playing stocks, right? Right.
I haven’t tested this sweet new thing out yet. I just wanted to beat LifeHacker to the punch. And I so did. Booyah.
So I’m back right away with some news. First, I think I got a job. I’m pretty sure of this, actually, because I got the call back I’ve been waiting on for a week.
Second, I don’t know how I managed to get this job.
The short story is I thought I failed the job interview miserably. This fact makes this more of a how-not-to.
How I managed to pass a job interview:
1. I talked way too much. Yes, this is sad, but true: I talk too much. I always have. I always will. The problem here is that I answered around six questions in about 45 minutes. I felt the need to justify every answer with a story and some form of concrete example. The problem is I didn’t have a whole bunch to help me out here: I had to really pick my own brain the night before (which I did; I prepared, thank goodness).
2. I prepared, but I also stayed up way too late. I read over questions, wrote out my own, practiced them. The problem is I was tired and none of them made very much sense the next morning, when I was still tired, which explains the over-talking. I did everything you’re supposed to do, but I did it far too long into the night.
3. I didn’t eat breakfast. I was nauseated beyond belief with nerves. Carbs probably would have helped settle my stomach, but that would require eating, which had no appeal at the time. I was hungry and wanted to get it over with.
4. I smoke. I was having a nic fit by the end of the interview, which made me kind of rush through my answers, jumble them…
Basically, everything I could have done wrong I did. But you know what?
I still got the job!
And now of course I don’t think I’m going to accept the job. Jesus. I’m awful.
